It'll look worse if it comes out we were hiding it.

[His tone is quiet, and not unsympathetic, but firm all the same.]

I won't share your name without your permission, but think about it. If those of us affected decide together, now, who to tell and how, we control it. I've had at least one of these spells in front of another person, and it sounds like you have too. The longer we wait, the less likely we are to have a say in who knows when.