Those sound like much more responsible reasons to end a relationship than any of mine. You might give yourself some credit.
[ Ilias mostly considered none of those things and then got upset when they turned out to be important. So, bravo. ]
I have not been so careful; perhaps that is a more useful comparison. I was once, but— it is easy to forget, yes? In the moment, that one ought not always pursue a deeper connection, as you put it. But once such bonds exist, and there is danger in their inevitable breaking — I suppose I only wonder if it is cowardice or sense, to sever them sooner.
I assure you, I've had a couple of messier ends, too. It just wasn't a mess because of an additional person.
[Breakups can be bad in so many ways, even if you're a levelheaded peacemaker.]
As for your position... I honestly don't know. Retreat can represent cowardice or sense, after all, depending on the context. And it's not always clear on the ground. If it were me, I might weigh it differently depending on what the likely danger was.
[Someone being hurt emotionally requires different consideration than, say, a party being made tranquil or someone getting executed.
Ilias is not much of a liar. Nor much of an actor, it seems, as the reassuring smile he smooths too-late over his expression comes out a bit less No more than bruised feelings, of course, and more What's a little mild possession among friends?.
Anyway. ]
The greater the danger, I gather, the more caution begins to look sensible. [ And the less one wants to exercise it. A sigh. ] Thank you, Enchanter, that is a clarifying rule of thumb at least.
I'm not sure I feel as if I helped very much, but I am glad you think so, at least. But it is likely fair to say that I tend to weigh risk and reward rather carefully. I know it's not everyone's approach. And,
[wry]
as I said. I've often just been lucky, at least when it comes to this sort of problem in particular.
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[ Ilias mostly considered none of those things and then got upset when they turned out to be important. So, bravo. ]
I have not been so careful; perhaps that is a more useful comparison. I was once, but— it is easy to forget, yes? In the moment, that one ought not always pursue a deeper connection, as you put it. But once such bonds exist, and there is danger in their inevitable breaking — I suppose I only wonder if it is cowardice or sense, to sever them sooner.
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[Breakups can be bad in so many ways, even if you're a levelheaded peacemaker.]
As for your position... I honestly don't know. Retreat can represent cowardice or sense, after all, depending on the context. And it's not always clear on the ground. If it were me, I might weigh it differently depending on what the likely danger was.
[Someone being hurt emotionally requires different consideration than, say, a party being made tranquil or someone getting executed.
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Ilias is not much of a liar. Nor much of an actor, it seems, as the reassuring smile he smooths too-late over his expression comes out a bit less No more than bruised feelings, of course, and more What's a little mild possession among friends?.
Anyway. ]
The greater the danger, I gather, the more caution begins to look sensible. [ And the less one wants to exercise it. A sigh. ] Thank you, Enchanter, that is a clarifying rule of thumb at least.
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[wry]
as I said. I've often just been lucky, at least when it comes to this sort of problem in particular.
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